I'm thinking of you guys tonight at work. I just scanned a
woman who is 7 weeks pregnant with twins. She and her husband are in
the ER because she has vaginal bleeding. They have been trying to get
pregnant for two years. They are emotionally drained as they have been
on a roller coaster over the last two years and, especially, today as
they fear miscarriage. Watching their raw emotions broke my heart. I
actually struggled not to cry while scanning them and listening to their
tears, fears, and the husband's sweet whispered support. I'm not sure
that the babies are going to make it, but I am praying for them. I am
praying for you guys too. I hope that your journey to parenthood is
short and without complications, despite your current frustration.
love you guys,
Sara
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Sara, your message really means a lot to me -- thank you!
That is so sad about your patient. After the joy of finally conceiving
after all that time, I can't imagine the crushing blow that it must be
to fear that you're miscarrying. :(
I
really appreciate your prayers. I've started spotting, which means my
period is about to start, so I already had a good cry about that last
night. So we have been trying for five months now unsuccessfully. I
don't really know what to think ... Do I stop charting? Do I make an
appointment with the ob? Do we just keep on doing what we've been doing,
even though it hasn't been working? Do I stay hopeful? Do I let it go?
Do I just assume we aren't meant to have kids and start thinking about
future trips and other goals? Do I look into
adoption? Or am I completely overreacting, as they say 85 percent of
couples get pregnant within a year of trying? It is indeed very
draining.
Thank you again for your loving note.
XO,
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Erika, I
think that you should hang in there. Not everyone gets pregnant
immediately. Sometimes it does take time. I think that you should
continue to plan fun things for the two of you. Although you are trying,
you are not parents yet. You should still travel, be spontaneous, and
have all the parentless fun that you can. This is the season of life
that you are in now. Enjoy the present. In the future you will be
parents and that will be a whole new lifestyle. A different kind of fun.
Keep trying, but enjoy today or you are going to miss it completely.
Don't be shy with your doctor. At five months out, your doctor may not
be helpful or encouraging, but don't be scared to speak with him/her.
Ask what your options are. Ask if you can be referred to a specialist.
God will bless you with a baby in His time. Remember, His
time is very different from our time. Thankfully, His time is perfect.